• Malialani Dullanty


In general, I am opposed to New Year lists or resolutions.

I think you should be able to say, "I am going to change my life for the better" at any point, for any reason, and preferably you would do it constantly. It shouldn't take the man-made structure of time to dictate when it is good to shift your life toward something new. I think that is why people often set goals they can't or won't or don't achieve. It should just be you. Because of you. For you.

For example, Mark and I gave up gluten and sugar for the month of December (not necessarily thoughtful timing). But I am loving that life change to the point where I'm going to keep it. And I should be able to do that, to change my life whenever I want to. For me.


It so happens that we are about to enter into a serious shift in our life that aligns with the start of the year. Unrelated to the fact that 2018 changes the calendar, we will spend the month of January packing our 10 tubs of belongings, smattering of furniture, and all together too many tools in order to move them to a new space. Our hope is that this new space, will be our new permanent space.

We are beyond excited.

And with this change in scenery, I need a change in attitude. I have seen life through a dark and dingy lens for the past two years, and it's time to let it go.

1. Prioritize Us. Mark and I, Rory and Jinora. I prioritize laundry and groceries and sweeping, but I struggle to prioritize relationships. I struggle to stop doing the dishes to play tag. I struggle to build Lego towers. I struggle to turn off my phone. This changes. Now.

2. Less Input, More Output. Movies and music and social media need to have a purpose, not a scroll. And creating get easier the more you do it, so I'm going to do it. I'm going to choose blogging over Instagram. And I'm going to tattoo and sketch instead of Facebook. To create constantly. I am going to create constantly.

3. Listen More. This might seem to contradict that last, but it doesn't really. I hear things and see things through my own personal filter. And I want to take more time to really listen and try to see things from someone else's point of view. This process started several months ago, but I am excited to see where it continues to take me.

4. Be Kinder. This tags on the last one. My husband, lovingly, told me the other day that I am a bit of a hater. And he's not wrong. People who chew with their mouths open, people who own snow mobiles but don't live where it snows, fit people who run incorrectly, people who change lanes without a turn signal, people who get uppity that I call my mother "white" - and whilst I refuse to give up my deep sarcastic streak? I need to be kinder. I don't need to be a hater. I can move on and send positive vibes into the world. I can feel irritated about the lane-changer without needing to rant about it. I can.

5. Find Good Company. I need to be surrounded by inspiring things. People who are living out their dreams, as small or big as they might be. Places that are awe-inspiring, as far or near as they might be. Media that motivates me to be a better person and do more, in little or great ways. I'm ready for the glasses to get rosy again.

So here we go, entering into something new. Just 'cause.

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